Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Session Two: Marriage & Family





“Comfort, comfort my people, says the Lord.  Speak tenderly to Jerusalem, and cry to her that her warfare is ended and her iniquity is pardoned and that she has received
double from the Lord’s gracious hand.”   Isaiah 40:1-2


“There’s Trouble at Home!”



Some look back at some “Golden age” of marriage and the family (usually one they didn’t live in – or “remember” with very filtered minds!).  Truth is, Ward and Joan Clever were a mythical creation of Hollywood writers (complete with her pearls and high heals cleaning the house).  BUT, no doubt, things are not so golden.  Roughly half of all marriages end in legal divorce – and a whole lot more all but legally end.  And of course, many “marriages” today aren’t legal marriages at all and so don’t show up in the statistic; one estimate is that 80% of persons who “live together” with some permanence (whether legally married or not) “terminate.”  And RARELY is it nice or pretty.  And there’s usually a long (and ugly) “history” leading up to it.  

Sometimes it’s just as ugly for those that STAY together; it just may last longer. 

God intended marriage to be a union, a blessing, a partnership through the joys and struggles and journey of life.  We can make it almost everything BUT what God intended.  For many families, it’s not a blessing.  It’s a curse.  One they may avoid (emotionally if not literally), perhaps loosing themselves in work or kids or…..

Most first-born children are at least born out of wedlock (if not conceived so); in some sub cultures in America, it is RARE that kids know who their father is – not that they know him, but that they even can know his name.  In some families, kids and parents are at war, and the kids are winning.  It’s not unusual for parents to feel the only solution is to give up and the kids run free.  Parents may have embraced that little baby as a precious gift of God!  But they may soon regard that child as a curse.  Home life can be the worse part of life….

  • How have you seen this among your friends, relatives, neighbors, co-workers?
  • Do you think it’s worse than before?  Why/why not? 
  • What pressures does all this create on the family?  Community? 
  • Do you think God cares?
  • How have YOU tried to be a source of courage, comfort?  Hope and help?  How did that go?

Read John 2:1-11


St. John (by divine inspiration) probably tells this account – here very early in his Gospel – to get to his point that “Jesus is the Christ, the Son of the Living God.”  It is His first recorded miracle.  But there’s something else going on here, too.

  • What is the family occasion? 
  • Why do you think Jesus, Mary and the disciples are there?
  • There’s a crisis!  What is it?  In the great scope of things, does it seem hugely important?
  • Why do you think Mary gets involve?  What does she feel about Jesus’ concern even without asking him (remember: he have never before done a miracle)?
  • What did Jesus do?  Why? 
  • What was the response? 
  • What does this tell you about Jesus and our family issues?  Does the issue need to be HUGE to him or just to you?
  • MARY was the first to intervene, what does that say about you and me?
  • Jesus was made a part of the family for this; what does that say about our marriages and families? 

For struggling marriages and families, what “comfort and courage” “ help and hope” are found in the following:

Mary’s counsel in John 2:5 _____________________________________________________

Paul’s counsel in Ephesians 5:21 ________________________________________________

Philippians 2:1-11 ____________________________________________________________

Galatians 5:22-23 ____________________________________________________________

Ephesians 5:31 ______________________________________________________________

Ephesians 6:1-4 _____________________________________________________________

Matthew 6:33 _______________________________________________________________

For parents with a child (or children) who “blew it,” Genesis 3:11-13 _____________________

Romans 8:31-39 _____________________________________________________________

And of course, all those Scripture PROMISES we looked at last week about forgiveness – received and extended!


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